The Post Break-up Rules.

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie gets a taste of his own medicine from an ex of many years ago.

“I started to bump into him again. He’d still ‘blank’ me, walking past me as if I were a complete stranger. It made sense to me when we first broke up, but I was beginning to think it was getting petty.”

After Coffee Text.

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie gets into a text exchange Coffee Guy, the one he randomly gave his number to, which is not all he hoped it would be.

“Despite a bit of eye contact, I couldn’t have been completely certain that he was gay, but I took the risk nonetheless. Now, I was completely giddy, like a kid who was just given the world’s biggest lollipop.”

Rom-Coms and Coffee.

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie catches up on the genre he used to love, the rom-com, and decides that his tastes should be redefined.

“All three were just as cheesy as you’d expect, with endings that you could predict from the opening credits. Still, I found myself going all teary-eyed and gasping at all the right moments, totally lost in the flawed-but-sweet plot of each one.”

Venue and Nationality Confusion.

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie find his very identity challenged when he meets a girl in a gay bar.

“Once she heard my Irish accent, her eyes lit up, telling me how much she loved Ireland and that her ex-boyfriend was from Donegal.”

V Day!

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie thinks on the pressures of Valentine’s Day after going to a pre-Valentine’s party.

“In some ways, I thought, it was like a first date – I was about to make a first impression to an apartment full of single guys.”

Get up … and go?

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie looks for “a guy who’s a bit of a bloke”, but what exactly does that mean … for him?

“There are different kinds of gyms, and just as gyms are like churches in gay culture, choosing one is like selecting which religion to follow.”

Look Out, Girls!

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie takes a different turn and, like Carrie Bradshaw before him, writes advice for the ladies who love.

“If there’s really only one main dating website for gay & bi girls, and most lesbian nights seem to flop, where’s left?.”

The one who got away, and came back again ….

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie homes in on a six foot beauty who is unfortunately attached … or is he?

“Alas, a Las Vegas wedding was not going to be on the cards, as it turned out he was dating someone, and shouldn’t have been doing a triple-take in my direction in the first place.”

Can cuddle, can’t ….

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie trades on the dark side of probable-infidelity and definite kink.

“I usually prided myself on being mature and adult about most topics, but I felt we were entitled to let our hair down and act like gossipy schoolgirls every now and again.”

And the Survey Says …

Gay Relationship Column. Scottie is asked for feedback on a date. Honestly. And now he’s going to Hell.

“Usually, if I politely say to a guy that our first date will also be our last, I’ll get some sort of acknowledgement that the message has been received and we leave it at that. This guy was different.”